Some questions to ask your Guardian ad litem

Our court system has us believe that the role of Guardian ad litem is at least in theory a person who is the eyes and ears of the court offering a neutral and unbiased view of the divorcing family. In practice the person who operates in this role is anything but. The Guardian ad litem’s personal values and agenda clouds the process and as a result this can be a source of conflict with you.

Ask yourself this:

How well do you know this person?

What happens if your values differ from that of this court appointed official?

Our Family Court system markets the belief that in the roll of Guardian ad litem we have a person who we are to believe is an expert in determining – where your child should live, the impact of divorce or domestic violence, visitation, custody, law, psychology and social work to name a few areas. This expertise comes from just a few hours of training with little or no focus. There is no test to determine whether or not this Guardian ad litem understands the material. There is no mentoring program after the Guardian ad litem completes training. To make matters worse - there is no oversight or management of this person in this role. Doctors, lawyers, judges, electricians, plumbers, nurses, oil burner technicians, chiropractors, social workers and dental hygienists have more training and oversight. In addition to the training and oversight we can ask people in these professions questions without the fear of being reprimanded for doing so.

You – as a consumer – need to inform yourself about the person who is being thrust into your life and making decisions which you have no control over. They should be asked before any Guardian ad litem has become a part of your life - chances are the Guardian ad litem is already wreaking havoc in your divorce/ custody. It is not too late.

These questions are being presented in no particular order or grouping. In most cases the answers will have meaning for you and should be used as a tool to help in understanding the Guardian ad litem. In asking any of these questions if the Guardian ad litem refuses to answer or gives a non-answer answer – that is a behavioral message and a clue as to the makeup of the person. The questions and answers should be entered in as evidence or asked in court of the Guardian ad litem. It becomes part of the record.

After going through this list if you can think of questions that may be appropriate to ask we would encourage you to share. A link will be provided to voice those questions. 

Presented here are some basic questions (depending on the answer there may be follow up questions): 

1     Do you have experience as a law enforcement officer in conducting investigations?

2.       What is your actual field of professional expertise?

3.       What makes you an expert in determining what is good for other people’s children?

4.       What makes you an expert in determining how other people should conduct their lives?

5.       What is your child hood family background?

6.       What is your own family history as an adult?

7.       What is your own marital history as an adult?

8.       What is your own relationship history as an adult?

9.       Why do you want to be appointed to this case?

10.   What do you see your role in this case to be?

11.   How do you separate your underlying professional behaviors from your role as Guardian ad litem functions?

12.   As a Guardian ad litem going through training were you ever tested on what you learned?

       a.       YES – What was the score you received?

       b.      NO – How do we know that you understand the material taught/ discussed?

13.   As a Guardian ad litem you are tasked as being neutral and unbiased in conducting your investigation and in making recommendations.

       a.       How do you maintain neutrality during your investigation?

       b.      How do you keep your personal bias and agenda out of the cases?

       c.       Does the judge provide supervision and oversight when you are appointed to a case?

14.   As a child did you ever experience issues involving the absence of one or both parents?

        a.       YES – What was that experience like for you?

        b.      NO – How can you understand what the issues are?

15.   Do you have experience with research in dealing with child custody?

       a.       YES - What specific research can you sight?

       b.      NO – If not then please explain how you are able to conduct an investigation?

16.   Please describe what was/ is the relationship you had/ have with your Mother?

17.   Please describe what was/ is the relationship you had/ have with your Father?

18.   Are there any ongoing issues with either?

19.   Did you grow up in a divorced home?

20.   Do you have siblings?

21.   Do you have Grandparents?

22.   As a child did you have contact with your extended family?

23.   Do you come from a religious home?

       a.       YES – What is your religion currently?

24.   Did/ do you come from a particular ethnic background?

25.   We grow up with a belief system. It is a part of what defines us as a person.

       a.       Has your belief system ever interfered with an investigation?

       b.      Did/ will your belief system interfere with this case?

       c.       NO – How do we know?

26.   Do you apply your own values in making recommendations to the court?

       a.       YES – Can you describe what some of your personal values (political, social as example).

              i.   If my values are different than yours how will that affect your perception of me as a             parent?

       b.      YES – As a neutral observer – why are your values better than either parent?

       c.       NO – How can we be sure?

       d.      NO – As a neutral observer – are you saying that your investigation is neutral with regards to the values you have?

              i.   If so then what test do you use to verify this?

              ii.  How can we be sure your values will not influence how you view this divorce/ custody?

27.   In making your recommendations to this court please explain how you arrived at the following:

       a.       The visitation schedule?

       b.      Custody?

28.   Have you ever been married?

       a.       YES – How many times?

       b.      NO – How are you able to understand the dynamics of married life?

29.   Have you ever been divorced?

       a.       YES – How many times?

       b.      YES – Did you ever go through litigation?

              i.   YES – Did you have issues with child support?

              ii.  YES – Did you have issues with the custody agreement(s)?

       c.       NO – What experience do you draw upon in order to understand what a divorcing family goes through?

30.   Do you ever refer cases you are involved in to Child Protective services?

       a.       YES – What are your criteria for such a referral?

       b.      YES – Is the claim of child abuse always a criminal claim?

       c.       YES – Should criminal allegations be removed from Family Court to an investigation by the Attorney General’s Office?

31.   Which Judges do you frequently work with?

32.   Which lawyers do you work with on cases?

33.   How many of your cases have been appealed to a higher court?

34.   Have you ever been sanctioned:

       a.       By a Judge?

       b.      By a Higher Court?

       c.       The result of a complaint?

35.   How many cases have you been involved with as a Guardian ad litem?
36.   How do your clients respond to the work you do as a Guardian ad litem?  

While these questions should be asked before the Guardian ad litem has been assigned by the judge - quite often it will not be until after you recognize there is a problem with the way this person operates. It is never to late to start asking. Make the questions and answers for the record. If you have any questions which you think may be appropriate we ask that you follow this [LINK] to submit. We will maintain a running list of questions.

National GAL Alert is working for reform in our Family Court system. This includes the role of Guardian ad litem, Parent Coordinator, Special Master and court evaluators. If you have issues we ask that you contact us at NationalGALalert@gmail.com or find us on Facebook.

The Divorce Industry and Courts say 'Caveat emptor' - Let the Buyer Beware

We have become fascinated by a variety of supposedly routine, signed formal agreements (or contracts) between Guardians ad litem (GALs) and consumers, which might be called "boilerplate" contracts.  These contracts are in writing, frequently follow a standard, stereotyped formula, and are widely used by GALs when they start to work with clients (parties) on a case.  More often than not, there is no effort made to fully inform those who sign such contracts about their downside.

Are these actions truly “contracts”, entered into willingly, with fully  informed consent between two or more parties, or is a “boilerplate” agreement a defective legal instrument that may endanger those who are forced to use it?  The very same boilerplate contract may be seen by legal authorities in two quite  different ways: (a) as a simple, legal, interpersonal agreement in which “ignorance of the law is no excuse”, and ‘caveat emptor’ applies? , or (b) a defective legal instrument foisted on an uninformed party with potential for significant personal harm (or a ‘tort’) involved?  The exact same contractual understanding can be seen by the legal profession as having two quite different legal points of view; a valid contract or a ‘tort’.

Very recently, there has been a great deal of public (and professional) interest in these "boilerplate" contracts that are cropping up in many industries.  They are especially common in the "divorce industry".  There is considerable debate whether they are valid contracts, because frequently those who sign these documents don't understand them, do not realize the full, potentially harmful consequences and may feel forced to agree without adequate debate, questioning or understanding of what they may be getting into.  This becomes painfully evident when those signing such an agreement realize only after the signing, as the contract plays out,  that they have agreed to actions which may be harmful to them or their interests. The client wakes up to the danger in the "contract" only after they have gotten into it, and is told, "Sorry, it's too late!" "You agreed, here's your signature!"  ‘Caveat emptor’!

The contractual issues that are getting a fresh look in some law schools are
(a) the marked inequality of knowledge of the parties to the contract.  Those who work in the legal profession usually have extensive training in the nature of contracts; the average consumer frequently has very limited knowledge of the nature or legal basis of contracts.
(b) There is no attempt on the part of those issuing the contract to obtain fully "informed consent" from the signer.  How may this contract work against you?   What are the unfavorable things that could happen?  How may you terminate it?  Are you agreeing to this "contract" with your eyes wide open?
(c) Can a "boilerplate contract" without  "informed consent" be considered a defective (or even harmful) consumer product that exploits the public and that can be harmful to those who "buy" it?  Some legal teachers are examining "boilerplate" as a "tort", or harm; rather than a dispute under contract law.  Does a "boilerplate" contract carry dangers to consumers that are similar to the dangers of being sold prescription drugs loaded with known side effects (and NO warning), or the sale of deliberately tainted food- also without warning?
(d) In divorce custody cases, as well as in other types of boilerplate contracts, such as with banks and other members of the "financial industry", the legal remedy of taking the contractor to court for either harm or violation of contract is disallowed by the boilerplate or other legal protections.  In divorce cases it is disallowed, because both GALs and judges who present and enforce contracts have "Judicial immunity".  In both situations it is a stacked deck against consumers.

For up to date information on Guardian ad litem reform please contact us at NationalGALalert@gmail.com or like us on Facebook. We welcome comments.

Additional information on boilerplate contracts we suggest reading the following book review published in the Wall Street Journal: "Boilerplate" by Margaret Jane Radin. Margaret Jane Radin is a law professor at the University of Michigan. The topic is highly relevant to the divorce industry and Guardians ad litem, Parental Coordinators and others subsidiaries of the divorce industry.

The Violation of Our 5th Amendment Rights by Our Judges

“Nor shall be compelled in any criminal case be a witness against himself” These are one of the the lofty, important human rights guaranteed to all US citizens by our world famous Constitution. Yet in state after state these 5th Amendment citizen rights are being violated by family courts, the very institutions that are supposed to protect those rights. This has been going on unnoticed by many for some time and has almost become accepted as a regular way of doing business by the courts, Judges, lawyers, officers of the courts and uninformed consumers.

What Judges are condoning- whether directly or indirectly - is asking one or both people involved in a custody to sign over their rights to privacy in confidential, privileged transactions, without explaining how this confidential information will be used- for or against the party. In the example provided below, the judge has ordered the defendant to provide proof of not only the attendance of counseling, but to allow the counselor to speak with the Plaintiff on the Defendants progress.

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Why is this a violation of the defendants 5th Amendment rights? There may be those who will say that the defendant has a choice. He/ she does not have to agree to follow the judge’s order. And this, in theory, would be true. In this case, however, the defendant was faced with the following:

1. He/ She was threatened with contempt of court and jail if he/ she did not comply

2. He/ She could agree with the release of information to his/ her ex and the courts without knowing how his therapy records might be used by the opposing attorney and the alienated spouse: in his favor, or against him, to argue that he/she was an unfit parent, should not have time with his/her child. He is being asked to risk testifying against himself, if his therapy records are released. Self-incrimination versus contempt of court and jail. Tough choices!

Although both choices are horrible and personally damaging, What would you do? In going to jail there is the potential of losing one’s job, having a jail record and the loss of income during jail time. These are all tangible concerns and fears. We know what the potential consequences are in going to jail.

On the other hand by agreeing to the release of information, the "owner" of the information has no way of knowing in advance how that information is going to be used. It is impossible to give his/her “informed consent”, because it is impossible to know every possible or likely outcome of this action, and how it may affect your case. There is also no way to know that the information gained by the plaintiff and court will not be used as part of an attack by the plaintiff against the defendant. This is seen by many people as a sneaky, indirect way to get the defendant to testify against him/ herself. It is a violation of the defendants 5th Amendment rights, and it is all too frequently used by Judges that preside over family courts in custody disputes. It is also one of the many examples of how the Judicial process in family cases has corrupted itself. This process is in danger of becoming very ingrained in the system and it violates the constitutional 5th Amendment rights - to say nothing of common law principles about forcing consent.

The courts in the state are showing a lack of respect for the privileged, confidential information that is conveyed between the therapist and patient as an absolutely necessary part of therapy. In this case (as well as many others that we are aware of) under the threat of contempt of court, the defendant buckled and was forced into making a “release of information” decision that had ramifications that the Judge, plaintiff and most of all defendant had no way of knowing how it would play out. The Judge was in effect telling the defendant that he/ she would have to potentially testify against him/ her self – thus violating their rights under the constitution. The judge also unwittingly destroyed therapy by destroying the confidentiality necessary to make therapy work!

If you have had issues or if things about your case just don't seem right with your Guardian ad litem – please contact us for support at NationalGALalert@gmail.com or like us on Facebook to stay up to date on issues and events. We encourage your thoughts on this subject please feel free to respond.